Article by Emma Johnson
Growing up, I always seemed to have my foot in my mouth. An astute observer – or judge, if you will – of human nature, I had little filter and blurted out exactly what I thought in social situations, classrooms, or at the dinner table. This lead to some awkward and painful life lessons. As I got older, however, I learned to keep my mouth shut more often and cultivated a filter – but not entirely.
My natural inclination to scrutinize and share that scrutiny has become my greatest asset in both my professional and personal lives. I have been a journalist and writer all of my life, and my career took a dramatic upward swing when I started blogging and podcasting, sharing my opinions and observations about relationships, family, money, and gender. Seemingly by magic, giving the world my observations has attracted likeminded people who share my point of view. Life is far less lonely than it was when I was a loudmouthed, opinionated kid.
How do you identify your greatest assets and deepest reserves of strength? Ask yourself these questions:
1. What Was the Hardest Time of Your Life? What Tools Did You Use to Get Through It?
Whether it was the death of a loved one; a career, financial, or academic setback; a health crisis; a romantic breakup; or an addiction, identify the emotional tools, social habits, or intellectual assets you tapped into to get past that life event.
2. What Were Your Greatest Successes?
These might be easily identified accomplishments such as earning a degree or promotion, reaching a health or fitness goal, or building a business. What did you do that others around you did not? What did you do that was different from your previous behavior? What habit or attribute served as your own tipping point toward success?
3. What Gives You the Most Joy?
Your own personal achievements might not be evident to others. Perhaps you cared for a terminally ill loved one or have a special connection with your children. Maybe it’s gathering friends for lively evenings of conversation or organizing people in your community for a greater good. In your own personal contentment lies a genius that should not be dismissed.
I often refer to the closing passage of the seminal book on writing, The Elements of Style, written by William Strunk Jr. in 1918 and later updated by author E.B. White. This passage can be applied not only to writing but also to life: “Your whole duty as a writer is to please and satisfy yourself, and the true writer always plays to an audience of one.” When you feel good, White assures us, you are doing your best work. Satisfy that inner voice – that personal joy – and you find your own deepest strength.
What Others Have to Say About Finding Their Strengths:
Jeremy Arnold, cofounder of Launch, a friend-based dating app: When I began working in the corporate world, I internalized the idea that an infinite appetite for long hours and messy projects was the surest way to the top. A decade of experience and two burnouts later, I’ve realized that my real strength is vulnerability. By being open and raw and human, I can give the people working with me the necessary space to be real, which results in unleashing more creativity and producing better work than any carrot-and-stick motivation ever could.
Zaida Khaze, owner of Wiggletot: When I was 19, I sustained a traumatic brain injury in a drunk-driving accident. Neurologists were pessimistic about my future, but I surpassed their every prediction and went on to live a life similar to that of my peers. That strength showed me I am capable of seeing through many more obstacles, always following my own path. Since then, I have gotten married, fought through the medical and education systems to find answers that led to eliminating my daughter’s autism diagnosis, and launched a successful business.
Rob Harper, cofounder of Costa Rican Vacations travel agency: I began traveling internationally at a very young age through my family’s involvement with Rotary and Sister Cities, which took us to Germany, Belgium, and Costa Rica on official civic-sponsored exchange programs. We also hosted dozens of students and families from around the globe, all of whom exposed me to new cultures and languages before I even graduated high school and helped me hone my ability to understand and easily communicate with people very different from me. This strength is invaluable in both my personal life and my profession, as my company has employees representing 15 countries and serves clients from around the globe.
Emma Johnson is a New York City-based freelance business journalist. She blogs at Wealthy Single Mommy.